Posted by: Rolf | March 12, 2014

Road Rage

Road Rage 01Have you experienced this?

You are on your way to work, possibly a bit stressed because you have just enough time for the commute and none to spare. You get behind someone who is driving so slow it’s obvious that they don’t have anything important to do. At stop lights they may be busy doing something else when the light turns green and they sit far too long before beginning to move.

At this point the right thing to do seems to be pound on the steering wheel and sound the horn. Anger has a way of escalating even after the offense. Yelling at the other car and making your frustration known through facial expressions thru the window or into the rear view mirror seems at the time to be a logical remedy.

And the story could go on…

Being a Christian doesn’t preclude you from experiencing the distress of Road Rage.

In recent experiences with such delays in my daily commute, I’ve had time to consider why I’m sometimes tempted to take on an unattractive and un-Christ-like appearance.

In the Bible, James had some insights…

“What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?  You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.” James 4:1 – 2

In this case, what I want is my own way and I’m not getting it. The situation is beyond my control and that just increases my frustration.

As a Christian, I’m not supposed to act this way, am I? I’m supposed to have the “fruit of the spirit!”

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  gentleness and self-control.” Galatians 5:22

These are the Christ-like qualities that are supposed to be developing in me as I continue in my Christian life and with the help of the Holy Spirit, I know I must practice them until they are second nature.

“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires;  to be made new in the attitude of your minds;  and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.” Ephesians 4:22-24

Frustrations will come. How do I continue “developing” fruit of the Spirit and “lose” the Road Rage?

Steps to Sanity:

I find it helpful to turn on my local Christian radio station or my favorite CD for a steady stream of contemporary Christian worship and praise music. I find that this music, like no other, lifts my spirit and improves my mood, no matter what comes my way.

Speak to God as if He were sitting in the seat next to me. I express my frustrations to Him, I often have to apologize for something I did, said or thought because I know it was unbecoming if a Christ follower. If I keep my attention on Him, I will hear His answer, His comfort and His advice.

I try to remember to think of everyone on the other side of the car window as hurting individuals with cares, and worries similar to my own and possibly more.

Then, when my heart has softened, I can pray for that individual, whom I don’t know, but God does.

Remember that until we live in heaven with our Lord, we will experience offenses and most of us will experience anger. We have a choice as to how we handle it.

“In your anger, do not sin.” Ephesians 4:26

Focusing on the Christ-like attitude that we are developing will diffuse the rage before it begins.

A Tale of Christian Road Rage
By: Ben Witherington

A man was being tailgated by a stressed out woman on a busy street. Suddenly, just in front of him, the light turned yellow. He did the right thing, stopping at the crosswalk, even though he could have beaten the red light by accelerating through the intersection.

The tailgating woman was furious and repeatedly honked her horn, screaming in frustration, as she missed her chance to get through the intersection, while also, dropping her cell phone and makeup.

As she was still in mid-rant, she heard a tap on her window and looked up into the face of a very stern looking police officer. The officer ordered her to exit her car with her hands up.

He took her to the police station where she was searched, fingerprinted, photographed and placed in a holding cell. After a couple of hours, a policeman approached the cell and opened the door. She was escorted back to the booking desk where the arresting officer was waiting with her personal effects.

He said, ‘I’m very sorry for this mistake. You see, I pulled up behind your car while you were blowing your horn, flipping off the guy in front of you and cussing a blue streak at him. ‘I noticed the “What Would Jesus Do” window sticker, the “Choose Life” license plate holder, the “Follow Me to Sunday-School” bumper sticker and the chrome-plated “Christian fish” emblem on the trunk.

Naturally… I assumed you had stolen the car.

In His Grip and Serving Grace…


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